Is it possible to be confident after failure?
Long story short … YES. It is totally possible to be confident after failure.
But how can you regain your confidence after failure?
The answer to this question is the long story part. But I’ve got the insights and knowledge to help you regain your confidence, one step at a time, no matter what you did or what happened to you.
Let’s face it. Failure sucks. It feels bad, it makes us question ourselves, and it has a sinister way of seeping into different parts of our lives.
This isn’t the most fun topic to read about, but it’s an important one.
I want you to know that you CAN be confident after failure.
I’m going to give you 15 valuable tips for overcoming failure. If you implement these insights into your life, you will become more confident and equipped in facing any challenge that life throws at you.
Tip #1 – Reach Out To Your Loved Ones
Failure sucks, and it’ll pull you down for a while.
So when you experience failure and you feel your confidence drop, PICK UP the phone and call your family. Your closets friends. Talk to them, hang out with them, and spend quality time with them. Get out of your own head for a bit and lean on your family and friends for support.
You don’t even need to talk about your failure or what you’re feeling, especially if it’s uncomfortable. Just spend time with your loved ones to get some joy and positivity into your mind, to take you away from your thoughts for a bit.
Tip #2 – Do Something Fun!
What do you like to do? Pick ONE thing you like to do, then go out and do it. Today.
Not tomorrow. Not this weekend. TODAY.
Are you an outdoor enthusiast? Go out on a hike!
Are you an avid golfer? Go out to the range and get some swings in!
And if you’re not in the mood to be out and about after your failure … Netflix is available at your home 24/7! Rewatch an episode of your favorite show. Or read a new book. Anything fun you want to do in the comfort of your home … do it! Get some joy and positivity into your head.
Tip #3 – Do Something You’re Good At
You’ve got some positivity flowing into your brain now, but obviously you’re still feeling the sting of failure and don’t know where to start in getting your mojo back.
What are you good at? There has to be at least ONE thing you’re good at.
Are you good at singing? Sing the latest song that’s been on your mind lately. Record your voice and listen to all the notes you’re able to hit.
Are you good at giving advice? The next time one of your friends asks you for advice, give them the best damn advice you can give them. And ask them if your advice is helpful.
You probably won’t think your singing is all that great right now. You probably won’t think your advice is all that it’s cracked up to be. But you’re still doing something you’re good at, getting immediate feedback on it, and you’re letting yourself put something new out into the world.
Tip #4 – Build Momentum
Do a couple more things you’re good at. If you’re only good at one thing, then do that one thing multiple times. Sing five songs. Give five different friends some solid advice.
Just do whatever you’re good at, but do it more than once. Do it three or four times.
You’ll start building back your confidence as you focus on what you’re good at, which is something you probably already enjoy doing. Let the dopamine, the positivity, and the immediate feedback flow through your veins. The more things you do that you’re good at, the more negative thoughts you’ll replace with positive ones.
Tip #5 – Don’t Set Expectations
You’re starting to feel a little better by doing things you’re good at, things that you enjoy, and interacting with your loved ones. Do NOT put all your progress to waste by setting unrealistic expectations for yourself.
Some failure is short-lived. Other failures are larger and take more time to recover from.
Don’t expect immediate recovery. And don’t expect your first few momentum-building actions to get your confidence back. You’ll only disappoint yourself more. You’re already disappointed by your failure, so don’t do anything else that will disappoint you further.
Did you like these first 5 tips? Awesome … there’s 5 more to come in Part 2! Stay tuned 🙂
